Imagine Sex Is Just Sex

I am so proud of myself.  Dr Marty Klein, toplister of my men'11, keeps being cool month after month…all the way to the 2012 list – coming soon with not many surprises.

"Imagine there’s no heaven
It’s easy if you try
No hell below us
Above us only sky
Imagine all the people
Living for today…
–John Lennon

Throughout my career, I’ve continually been asked why the U.S. is such a nutty country when it comes to sex.

Consider: No one is debating sex education for teens in Holland. No one is questioning the wisdom of birth control in Japan. No one’s freaking out that prostitution is legal and regulated in Switzerland. If anyone suggested withholding Gardasil (the HPV vaccine) from Germany’s young people for fear of increasing “promiscuity,” he’d be laughed out of town. And in Spain, Australia, Israel, and dozens of other countries, gay soldiers serve openly next to straight ones.

And yet every one of these issues is considered controversial in American politics. Ours is the only industrialized country in the world in which people actually demand fewer rights and more restrictions on their sexual expression.

Imagine there’s no countries
It isn’t hard to do
Nothing to kill or die for
And no religion too
Imagine all the people
Living life in peace…

The only reasonable explanation for what separates us from other advanced countries is the toxic form of Christianity that has a stranglehold on our political dialogue, medical institutions, and childrearing.

The Pope has more influence on public policy in America today than he does in Italy. More Americans believe in the Rapture than in Evolution—and while they’re awaiting celestial transportation, they’ve captured our school boards. Pharmacy schools teach future professionals that they can pick and choose which prescriptions to fill—if they make their choices based on religion (rather than, say, obeying the voice of Elvis).

Tens of millions of Americans have actually invented a god that condemns their sexual feelings and behavior. Interestingly, this doesn’t affect their sexual impulses or behavior—it just makes them feel miserably guilty and alone. Some 10 million American teens are taught that this same god is deeply offended that they’re interested in sex before marriage. Instead of shaping their behavior, however, this teaching simply makes them unable to plan for sex, leading to all the messy stuff that happens when you have sex unexpectedly—unwanted pregnancy, misunderstandings, exploitation, etc....

By teaching children that masturbation is sinful, organized Christianity gives sexual impulses and behavior meaning where none exists. It creates an external sexual standard against which people believe they are compared—and are always found wanting, which damages them for life. The very idea that the consensual and responsible expression of sexuality can somehow be sinful is psychotic and abusive. Only because religion has so much cultural acceptance in the U.S. are these ideas seen as a system of “morality” instead.

By the way, I spent the weekend in Bethesda, MD, a guest of the American Atheist National Convention. It was as joyful, as thoughtful, and as irreverent a bunch of adults as I’ve ever met. A thousand of them gave me a standing ovation after my talk.

It was great.

Like they say: religion flies planes into buildings; science flies people to the moon. Religion gives people guilt about their sexual desires, and shame about their bodies; science gives people birth control, lubricants, penicillin, RU-486, pre-natal screening, and post-partum care.

Imagine."

Reprinted from Sexual Intelligence, copyright © Marty Klein, Ph.D. (www.SexualIntelligence.org).

I want those XXX shoes

I usually don’t like funny shit. It annoys me to the boarder of aggression both towards the object and the person who did it, but this time it's not the case. Probably because it looks like he really meant it. Kobi Levi is footwear art designer currently working on his women shoe line in Tel-Aviv, Israel.

„ In my artistic footwear design the shoe is my canvas. The trigger to create a new piece comes when an idea, a concept and/or an image comes to mind. The combination of the image and footwear creates a new hybrid and the design/concept comes to life. The piece is a wearable sculpture. It is "alive" with/out the foot/body. Most of the inspirations are out of the "shoe-world", and give the footwear an extreme transformation. The result is usually humoristic with a unique point of view about footwear. Another aspect of the creation is the realization. All the pieces are hand-made in my studio. The challenging technical development is the key to bring the design to life in the best way."

 Bla bla bla… those that melt into skin are my fave. But it would be super cool to have a pair...or whole closet…designed just for you. I have to put this in my planner for 'one day'. - http://kobilevidesign.blogspot.com

Wish list. - 

Blow

Chewing Gum

Contemporary Chinese 2011

leather

East meets west, fire dragon inspired upper with chop-sticks stilettos

Bird 1 Toucan 2011

Blond Ambition 2011

XXX Pump

Fuck this shit

Is that you, mom...? 

God doesn’t love you. There is no god. All there is is a nature. Nature is indifferent, and you are a mixture of chemical elements.

Giving back; you are supposed to give back, and you will give back. Your noble role is fertilizing that fern that will be eaten by something that will make a shit.

That dung, that is your special legacy. Your raison d’être.

Some shit decomposes in the rain, some fossilize. Unique members of our society turn via that chain into fossilized turd – coprolite.

Some coprolites happen in shades of pink.

Maybe female ones?

Ten bucks.

I wanna see war on nature with all illegal weapons. I want it injured, I want it suffering, I want it old and broken and mutilated, I want it on its bleeding knees, I want it every nanosecond dying deaths of all dying ones since the beginning of time, and never set free.

Grandpa Nikolaus nose? Oh no, you won't.

Aunt Ann's breast cancer? You take two, bitch.

85 years? Not this time.

We need new nature. Our nature. 

First step is stop glorifying this monster that treats us as a piece of crap.

And when she shines she really shows you all she can

Today is the birthday of Patrick Nagel.

If you have Playboy mags from mid 70's you are familiar with "the Nagel Woman". If you don't but lived in 80's, cover of the Duran Duran album Rio will ring the bell.

Bold, dark lines shape perspective out of flat, cool colors and stark white spaces; the result is what some have described as "fantasy realism."

I was a kid at that time and just couldn't wait to grow up…

Shoes for eternal love

Manolo Blahnik designed them specially for Bella & Edward wedding. 

I'd wear them for every day. I love white shoes.

1,300$. The name is 'Swan'.

Why are boys and men underperforming?

„In this TED video, Philip Zimbardo talks about an ongoing concern, the opting out of boys from academically and socially — boys are more likely to drop out of school, girls outperform boys at all academic levels, boys are 5 times more likely to be diagnosed with ADD. The difference also leads to many man-boys who can’t interact with women except on the most superficial and cartoonish level.“

Who says that they 'can't' interact with women?! How about they 'won't'? How about they are not motivated and how about it's not porn's problem that, these days, if you wanna see appealing woman, you have to seek help from at least two industries – XXX and afterwards shrink 'because only pervs are attracted to hotness'. 

Pippa Middletone, hotter sister of future Queen of England -
don't worry, you must have some of that only
if you are  his billionaire highness. 

Gail Dines talking about 'these men' who prefer porn to sex with
"an actual human being."

Andrea Dworkin, late feminist activist - 'the problem is in porn'.

Guys < 3 Pussy

I don't know what's unclear about that.
But I would erase the last word.
It would leave subconscious imprint in village idiots that bb gunning cats is somehow linked to flaming case of homosexuality.

Get yours here

That's the mouse pad for men

Proudly Made in the USA by Dangerous Threads, Nashville, TN „Giant Mouse Pad- Precision“ die cut from domestically tanned topgrain cowhides, made from premium quality 7/8 ounce Grade A Belt Leather, the same thick, rugged leather used for  heavy duty belts. Smooth surface, grainy back to prevent sliding. Super big rectangular 9" x 12" (3/4 square feet!), about 1/8" thick. Color: Jet Black.

 I loved this thing so much that I had an urge to advertise it. That's the mouse pad for men. If I had appropriate target, I'd buy it as a gift.

Fourteen Ways to Observe Pornography Awareness Week

Use some

My Men'11 laureate Dr Klein wrote another great blog entry. Enjoy the words, and hey… lets do it! I'll observe Porn Awareness Eternity in, as Marty suggested, white garter belt. Of course, of course…photos ;)

X,

" Fourteen Ways to Observe Pornography Awareness Week - Sponsored by groups including Concerned Women for America (CWA) and Morality in Media (MiM), the goal of the week is "to educate the public about the extent of the pornography problem and what can constitutionally be done about it." These are powerful groups lobbying Washington and state capitols to adapt Biblical principles for governing, and to weaken what they label the "so-called separation between church and state." 

Their suggested activities for the Week include urging the Attorney General to enforce obscenity laws; demanding that convenience stores stop selling X-rated mags or DVDs; and pressuring presidential candidates to promise to prosecute "illegal pornography." 

They also pledge to "raise awareness" of how pornography harms every single person in every single community. In other words, their goal is to lie, cheat, misinform, frighten, confuse, and manipulate. So far they're doing a great job. 

One strategy is the White Ribbons Against Pornography (WRAP)--literally wearing white ribbons to invite conversation about pornography. (They presumably considered but discarded the White Garter Belt Campaign.) 

I totally agree with the idea behind WRAP. I support increasing everyone's awareness of pornography use in this country: how many people watch it, who these people typically are, how it affects them and their relationships, how pornographers work hard to screen out underage performers, what Americans' rights are regarding possession of erotic material, etc.
Of course, I have a fact-based approach to this phenomenon rather than WRAP's emotional, say-anything-to-get-people-to-stop approach, so I propose a different set of activities to observe Pornography Awareness Week. 

To counter the obscene lies that our media and legislators will be hearing this week, perhaps you could do one (or more!) of the following: 

* If you use porn, talk about it with your partner. 

* Thank the clerk in your local convenience store for carrying porn magazines or DVDs. 

* Thank your local hotel for carrying pay-for-porn, even if you personally have never stayed there. Alternatively, write to a national chain that carries pay-for-porn (and has been bullied about it by groups like Citizens for Community Values), such as Marriott or Westin. 

* Write a letter to the editor of your local newspaper explaining that most people who use porn have no problem with it. 

* Write about this on your own blog. Tweet about it: "I use porn and my sex life is fine," or "I use porn and my sex life isn't very good--but it has nothing to do with porn." 

* Invite your partner to share her/his concerns about porn with you. 

* Instead of a White Ribbon, wear a Plaid Ribbon. When people ask, say it's for Porn Awareness Week and your gratitude for the First Amendment. 

* Start a conversation with someone: "Did you know that the Bill of Rights says NOTHING about exempting porn, obscenity, or indecency from our Freedom of Speech?" 

* Send a few bucks to the ACLU, National Coalition Against Censorshipor Woodhull Sexual Freedom Alliance. They protect your right to read, watch, and jack off to whatever adult material you like. 

* Write your mayor or governor reminding them that you vote–and that you have no problem with porn. 

* Memorize this fact: in the real world, porn is NOT connected with violence against women, child molestation, or divorce. In fact, the FBI says these have all declined since the country was flooded with internet porn in 2000. 

* Memorize this fact: the adult industry NEVER knowingly creates or distributes child porn. They're smart business people, not clueless idiots. The government has only identified two underage performers in professional films--both of whom produced sophisticated false identification--in over twenty-five years. 

* Memorize this fact: using porn does NOT cause brain damage, erectile dysfunction, or loss of sexual interest in one's mate. Other things do that, but not porn. 

* Use some. 

Bonus: What to say to people who say that pornography causes most of America's problems:
* "Of course some rapists and wife-beaters use pornography. So do 50,000,000 other Americans, and it doesn't make them rape or beat anyone." 

* "Of course some people watch way too much porn. Other people watch way too much football, reality TV, or the Weather Channel. That doesn't mean there's something wrong with any of them." 

* "Porn doesn't make men withdraw from their wives and girlfriends. Men withdraw for a variety of reasons. No pictures or stories can compete with a satisfying sexual & emotional relationship with a live person."

- Reprinted from Sexual Intelligence, copyright © Marty Klein, Ph.D. (www.SexualIntelligence.org)

Jean Paul Gaultier does Dallas

…We were just talking how more than few girls from our generation killed themselves. Life just didn't go in the direction that was so certain 20 years ago. Waking up to a monument of lost era no more.

One of most popular predictions was working with Jean Paul Gautier.
It would be interesting to see who are the people who managed.

If you live in Dallas…

…And The Triple Anal Gang Bang Award Goes To….

This post is inspired by famous YT video „Wal-Mart - Mr. Ghetto New Orleans Bounce Summer 2011“ and all the comments that comes with it; "If black people didn't make stupid shit like this, they probably wouldn't be degraded so much…. seriously those girls must have the lowest standards - there are porn stars with more self respect than this….freaks… LOL! Makin' Mother Africa proud again…"

It's Walmart. The artist is Mr.Ghetto.

Now let’s see classy acts aka how biggest female stars on this planet behave on biggest red carpets on this planet. The first thing they do when cameras start flashing is idiotic smile and turning their asses - or zone where ass is supposed to be - to photographers. Look, ass!

People in this manner usually display whatever they sell; a signature perfume, book, maybe a sports trophy or newest technology. What A league of female celebrities show as their major achievement is a place where shit comes out.

Not sure which continent should be proud about that. Probably Atlantis.

When a Chicken is Too Sexy, We're Really in Trouble

Dr Marty Klein isn't on my Men'11 list for no reason.

"Here's an old therapy joke:

A new patient comes to see a psychiatrist. The doc decides to give the patient a Rorshach Test, and shows him a series of cards with different inkblots on them.

"What do you see on the first one?" asks the shrink.
"That's a man and a woman making love."
"And the second one?"
"That's a couple who just finished making love."
"And the third one?"
"That's a man asking a woman to make love, and she's deciding what to do."
The shrink asks, "Don't you think it's interesting that you see sex in every card?"
"Don't blame me," says the patient "they're your cards."

Playing the role of that patient this week is PETA, People for the Ethical Treatment of Animals. The animal rights group is upset with a photo in a recent New York Times food section. Accompanying a story on the guilty pleasure of crispy chicken skin, the photo shows a raw chickenposed jauntily--even seductively.

It's funny, eye-catching, and sexy in a playful way.

But PETA went way over the top in objecting to it: "It's downright offensive, not just to people who care about animals but almost to everyone," said the group's president Ingrid Newkirk. "It's a plucked, beheaded, young chicken in a young pose. It's necrophilia," she concluded.

I'm certainly not the only one to note that perhaps PETA objects to someone stealing a page from their playbook. They've publicized their work by showing semi-nude models who'd "rather be nude than wear fur;" showing nude porn stars pleading with owners to spay their pets; and they're even planning to start their own porn site, which will "reach a whole new audience of people," according to PETA's director of campaigns.

But this latest, um, catfight, goes deeper than mere hypocrisy.

Newkirk is complaining that a raw chicken--the kind you buy in the supermarket--has been posed in a way that's too sexy. Worse, she invoked the archetypal monster of our time--the child molester. Newkirk said the photo showed a "young chicken in a young pose."

She might as well have called the photographer a terrorist. For nostalgia, throw in "Communist."

We live in a country where some people see sex--and therefore danger--everywhere.

Where you or I might laugh (or not) at a simple joke on Comedy Central about penis size, those uncomfortable with sex feel assaulted. Where you might ignore a tampon or douche commercial, they feel assaulted. Where you might be bored (or intrigued) by a Katie Couric episode about teen hookers, they feel assaulted. That's a lot of assault.

If you're not obsessed with sex, you might not even put these three experiences together in your mind. You might casually observe "dumb joke + health product + social problem (exaggerated or not)." But they perceive "sex + sex + sex." And for them, it never stops; people obsessed with sex that they resent never have a nice day.

When people are obsessed by sex--not about doing it, but by the subject--they see it everywhere. Like a four-year-old in a candy store or an eight-year-old at a scary movie, they are simply not emotionally equipped to ignore what they see. We should feel sympathy for these people, but they make it difficult, because they deal with their upset in such an aggressive way. They want to strip the public sphere of sexuality--and they imagine the public sphere as practically the whole world. It includes Greek statues in City Hall, radio ads for birth control, string bikinis on the beach, vanity license plates, lube in the drugstore--the list is almost endless.

I'm tired of people obsessed with sex seeing it everywhere, feeling assaulted, and wanting to protect themselves from it by stripping my world of art, fashion, words, products, and, ultimately, eroticism. Let's give these people compassion, not political or organizational power."

- Reprinted from Sexual Intelligence, copyright © Marty Klein, Ph.D. (www.SexualIntelligence.org)

Lie beneath me woman

Did you know that in biblical mythology there was another lady before Eve? Sort of Alexis character…The Lilith.

Nostradamus was right....

...Yellow man rules the world

Doing grey

Blonde boys make best toys

It's not that I haven't seen this bad bad Barbie type of thing before. First time….errrrr….twenty-one… so…15? 15 years ago. Guy came in the magazine that I worked for with an envelope of self developed b/w pics of sado-maso Barbie.  I recently even found one of those, how bizarre, on the floor of my dressing room.

It's not important.

Mariel Clayton (thephotographymarielclayton.com) made me giggle.  It triggered a flashback. I love doing naughty to boys, and blond ones are my fave taste in all respects.

He was about 6'5 platinum blonde. On the floor. Wearing jeans and T shirt. Spread legs. I had gold stiletto sandals. Between those legs. Very big. Thick eight inches. Matching trimmed hairs. And very very much. In that moment something possessed me, I crawled all the way up and french kissed him.  Letting it all melt between our tongues and watching in that dark how his spiked eyes spread in shock. It made me giggle.

I'd like to have this image on my wall in Mariel's interpretation.

Is the appetite for males in not so favorable positions manhate? Her answer from http://streetcouch.com reflects my opinion too;

„I’m actually anti-feminist. I don’t believe in it, because I think the message that “feminism” is trying to convey has escalated to a ridiculous and unfair demonization of men.I don’t believe that men and women are equal, because logically, they aren’t. However, that doesn’t mean they can’t be treated equally, and feminism is not interested in that.I think that men have been emasculated by contemporary media, to the point where they are treated like immature, imbecilic children who have nothing to contribute unless it’s something to deride or mock, and feminism plays a large part in perpetuating that characterization. 

Everything is so damn gynocentric, every woman is being told to “find herself’ and that she is “special” and “she can be everything she wants to be, damn anyone who tries to stand in her way.” To me that’s nothing more than a way to shirk personal responsibility. If something goes wrong, feminism says that it’s a man’s fault, that if you can’t get the job you want, it’s a man’s fault, if you aren’t being understood, it’s a man’s fault for not being more in touch with women’s feelings, if you are feeling overwhelmed, it’s a man’s fault for not offering to shoulder your burdens, but if he does offer, then he’s terribly insensitive and callous for assuming you can’t handle it. That is how feminism is shaping the female world, and it disgusts me. 

I think women (and men) need to stop worrying about “isms” and suck it up, take responsibility for your own life and how you deal with it, regardless of what gender you happen to be. 

My biggest portion of feedback comes from men — they seem to “get” the humor of it. I’ve had few nasty emails, all from women, calling me disturbed and unbalanced, recommending I seek therapy et cetera, which I find really interesting.I’m not out to send a message. I’m just out to have a bit of fun and share it with others.“

The world of Choi Xooang

Choi Xooang <-- Born in 1975
M.A. in Sculpture from Seoul National University in 2005
Exhibited in the Seoul Museum of Art and National Museum of Contemporary Art
Shown in Beijing, Singapore, and Paris
Lives and works in Seoul.